In this week’s episode of the Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I share some of the lessons we have learned in our nearly 19 years of marriage, how to fight less and communicate with more grace and depth.
We talk about practical strategies, personal development and growth, and how to tackle difficult conversations that can potentially lead to conflict and misunderstanding.
We also share some family updates – especially about Baby D’s upcoming surgery – and then we talk about what we read, a program Jesse went through to blame him for his health goals, a teeth whitening kit that i loved and more!
In this episode
[00:34] – Today we talk about how we (mostly) stopped arguing
[02:45] – This is a big week for us as it’s Baby D’s cleft palate.
[09:06] – Jesse shares what will help him be more accountable to his health goals.
[13:32] – There are seasons for really big, bold goals. And there are seasons for just, well, those little kick-off goals. So find out what season you are in and what is best for you.
[14:57] – A teeth whitening kit that I loved!
[17:21] – We share about books we’ve read.
[19:44] – Let’s talk about how we stopped arguing – most of the time!
[21:50] – The greatest thing that has helped us is to change our perspective on God and his love for us! Often times, we can get frustrated with our spouse because we expect them to give us something that only God can give.
[23:55] – If you do not believe that you are completely loved by God, it is difficult to believe that you are loved by others.
[25:28] – If you have decided in advance what your spouse, children, co-workers, community, friends will think about you, you will not really be able to hear what they are saying.
[26:24] – We come from very different perspectives and process the world very differently. Learning to see this as a gift has helped our communication a lot.
[30:57] – Changing the way we deal with conflict, hurt, and misunderstanding makes a huge difference when it comes to making our conversations more productive than full of tension and frustration.
[32:23] – I think another thing that really helped us a lot is prioritizing romance and fun. Don’t forget what brought you together first.