I have two boys, ages two and under, and they are so moody after a nap. Any tips on how to survive to bed? – a follower
The last 4-5 hours of the day can be so difficult when you have young children. Here are some ideas that have worked for us over the years:
1. Have a routine.
Children live on a certain constancy – and that can help you too. After waking up from your nap, you have a simple plan of what to do between nap and bedtime. I’ve found this to help make things feel less messy. Usually this means being less crying and moody, and making me feel calmer because we have a simple plan.
Tip: Don’t plan specific times. Just plan out an order of events to follow.
- As soon as they wake up from their nap we will have a snack and read a story together (while they eat).
- Then we put on our shoes and go for a walk in the double stroller.
- Next, we come back and watch a 30-minute show (while mom quickly makes sure the house is clean and the dinner preparation is finished).
- Then we wash our hands and have dinner.
- After dinner we take a bath, put on jams and read a bedtime story.
- Eventually we will pray together, sing a song, and go to bed.
2. Don’t plan on doing anything after you nap.
Mentally prepare yourself that the only thing you do between nap and bed is spending time with your little ones. That way you won’t be frustrated when they are moody. Instead, you planned that they would need your full attention!
3. Save the best for last.
If there are things your little one loves especially, save them after they nap. Don’t plan on doing something that requires mental effort or emotional range. If your little ones enjoy bathing, watching a show, or certain books or activities, plan to do so after their nap.
4. Make some scene changes.
Take a walk with the double stroller. Put them in their car seats and drive around for a while. Play in a different part of the house. Bring out toys that they can only play with after they nap.
5. Give yourself a lot, a lot of grace.
Having a toddler and baby is a lot of work. Make sure you fill up your tank and also save something that you enjoy / can look forward to even after you nap. Maybe listen to an audiobook while you take them for a walk, or tune in to music you love while you play with the, or make a cup of tea and enjoy a treat while you sit and watch a show see them.
What advice would you add to this mother of two young children? Share in the comments1
Take the time to refuel and refresh your tank – you can’t just give and give without ever replenishing your supply!