Facebook reminded me that this month it has been 10 years since we became a family of 5. So I thought I’d take a minute and re-introduce myself. I’ve been writing here for 5 years (is it really that long?) And I’m sure there are people out there who don’t know who I / we are … so here it goes.
From 3 to 5
Ten years ago I was a single mother of two children. We lived in a house that belonged to my father after 3 years of home instability since separating from my husband. When I was the youngest (gymnast was 1 year old) I started a consulting company and it was my only source of income to support my family. I had student loans, an auto payment, and no other debt …
And I had just completed my foster parent certification the year before, having dreamed of being foster parent since 8th grade. At that time we had 4 foster children through our house, but not for a long time. Then I got the call ..
“Emergency removal of twin boys, can you take them with you?”
That was literally all I was told. Then the twins showed up and dragged about half a dozen black garbage bags full of their belongings …
Life is like a rollercoaster
There have been many firsts since her arrival. First birthday party, first homemade meal and first trips. And we’ve even had a few other foster children here over the years. But the twins got stuck and here they were, now 10 years later a group of 5.
To be honest, at the time I didn’t plan that they would still be here. Adoption wasn’t part of my life plan. But unfortunately God’s plans are far greater than our own.
We have seen multiple moves, job loss and near homelessness, physical challenges and so many more unexpected adventures. It was tough, really tough. There were times when I really, really wanted to quit. But I have been blessed with an amazing support system and a chosen family. (My biological family is great, but we’re not very close.)
I’ve made terrible financial decisions along the way … too many to list. But longtime readers would agree that some of the high points are buying and selling way too many cars, taking on more debt for the wrong reasons, spending too much on kids – activities, experiences, and the like, not prioritizing my debt payments, and and on.
We are here now
The twins will be 23 years old this year. After 15 years as a consultant, I’m back in the corporate world. We have 1 other child in the family – Beauty came to us a little over a year ago so we are now 3 boys and 3 girls (and 4 dogs). I bought the house we have rented for the past 4 years since the summer, the first home I have owned since my marriage ended 14 years ago. Life is good. And I am debt free.
If I write here I am accountable. I’m notorious for making terrible decisions. But right now, in this moment and at this time, things are good. And I’m definitely on my way to paying off my debt !!!
I would like to know more about you … what’s your story? Where are you on your debt settlement journey?
Celebrating 10 Years first appeared on Blogging Away Debt.